Not all relationship advice for women is finely tuned to celebrate a woman for all that she is and all that she can be.
In fact, a lot of the advice out there in cyberland is looking to change women.
Here, we are not interested in making personality changes, but in celebrating you, your partner, and all that you have the potential to build.
Men and women see the world from two very different playing fields.
What is so wonderfully amazing is that despite the fact that they are each playing on different fields, we still come together in love and family to create our own safe sanctuary and our own safe home.
It is almost miraculous considering how unique men and women are from each other.
Because of these inherent differences, relationship troubles are bound to arise.
No two people are cut from the exact same cloth and thus two people in love are still able to find each other in the world.
Your cloth is your very own, to shape and to mold any way that feels good and fits well.
The same applies to your partner and his cloth.
Instead of butting heads over the differences, learning to celebrate them and even cherish them can make for a dynamic relationship.
When we get angry at our partner, it is usually because we want them to change.
For instance, if they wait too long before making sure the bills get paid, you might feel pressure to sit down every month and take care of the bills.
However, you become angry because he is not doing what you want in the way that you want it to be done.
Your anger is the motivating factor to try to get him to change and do it your way.
What if you accepted that he gets the bills paid on time, he just always ends up doing it in a mad rush that makes his life unhappy for about two hours? As long as they are getting paid, does it matter how he does it? While this example is rather simple, it applies to almost every occasion that we find we are angry with our partners.
Learning to celebrate you and him is actually going to take some work.
We are driven to change to receive acceptance by other people.
This concept is rather backwards from the entire theories of some of our childhoods.
But this theory can work when it is cemented in with additional principles about feeling good about who you are and celebrating your human flaws.
In the world of relationship advice for women, any advice that helps to celebrate you and your partner and discourages changing to fit the mold set in someone else's mind is advice worth heeding
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