The grief one experiences after a breakup can be extremely intense.
Going from sharing every aspect of your life to suddenly being thrown into a world of unknowns is very scary.
You even miss the things that used to drive you crazy about them.
Do you truly feel in your heart that getting your ex back is what you want? Before you jump in and try and win them back, it's important that you plan this out.
You may think you're acting fine, but your ex is going to notice any change in your personality that may come across as needy or desperate, so be careful.
Becoming more distant is how your ex will react to this type of behavior.
It's a natural human reaction for your ex to pull back when you push.
Acting needy and pushy includes things like calling every day, writing them love letters, trying to convince them to give you a second chance, etc.
Getting your ex back this way will be an uphill battle.
Instead, adopt an attitude of detachment.
Back off and give your ex some breathing room.
Use this break to work on making your life better.
This will be a challenging time for you and you'll have to resist the urge to return to your old ways.
By backing off you show your ex you're no longer pressuring them.
Your ex will be much more attracted to you now that you've become somewhat detached and unavailable yourself.
Now they're in a position to miss you.
How can they miss you if you're always bothering them? The process of getting your ex back involves working with your ex's natural instincts.
If you back off, it allows them to be drawn towards you again.
Now you have a basic understanding of how to avoid the common mistakes most people make.
The hardest part is not resorting back to fear based behaviors.
Make sure you have a solid plan and stick with it.