The things that destroy your chances are calling, questioning, texting, pleading, crying, or just wanting to talk about what went wrong and how he feels.
These things just drive him further away.
Have you ever broken up with a man and then he just kept wanting to talk about it.
He kept on and on.
How did you feel? You knew there was nothing you could really say to make him feel better and talking to him only made you feel guilt.
Guilt is not an emotion that will bring his attraction back for you, trust me.
Chances are if he kept it up, you began to feel sorry for him and started to see him as pathetic.
Are you going back to a pathetic man? I doubt it, so why should he want you back if you are acting this way.
Desperate comes to mind.
You may very well be feeling desperate, calling your girlfriends crying, my boyfriend broke up with me.
Call your girlfriends, lean on them, but don't lean on him for your comfort.
He broke up with you remember? It's OK to feel desperate, even quite normal.
The thing to remember here is to not let him see you this way.
Self control is very sexy.
A woman out of control is a wet blanket, really she is.
It's not easy to have this self control when your emotions are all over the place, but if you want him back, it's critical that you keep control.
I know this works.
My ex got me back after I broke up with him.
Had he groveled, it would never have happened.
He didn't.
He accepted the break up like a man and went into no contact.
I had time to miss him.
Eventually the memories that caused the break up faded and were replaced by the strong man that he showed himself to be.
Not to mention it was the respectable thing to do.
To fight the break up would not have been respectful of my wishes.
A couple months later, we worked it out.
It would never have happened had he lost his self control or acted pathetic.
If your boyfriend broke up with you, you want to be strong and hold onto your dignity regardless of if you get him back or not.
Do you want your ex to have his last memory of you crying and pathetic or of a woman with her head held high? That image will eventually replace his last image of you if you keep your self control.
If you want your boyfriend back, remember self control and no drama is the key.