My dear esteem Ezine readers, today I would share with you my findings of various studies about the increasing tendency amongst new generation of teenagers and adolescences in the world.
Though this problem is less known in third world countries but it is more common in developed and developing countries.
Shri Jagan Nath BA, a noted social worker used to say quote "Adolescents are like unripe half cast earthen pitcher, whatsoever shape the potter desires, he moulds" unquote.
He was of the view that parents, teachers and elders' responsibility are to ensure that: oone, our teenagers become the best human; otwo, best socially adaptable beings; othree strong enough to bear any type of hardship; ofour be polite so that others love them; ofive be fearsome, worrisome and bothersome; osix very judicious and sensible and; oseven enthusiast, tough and agile to face ever increasing challenges of life.
Based on above theme, I will dwell upon various issues which attribute towards teenagers suicide.
All of you would agree that as and when a teenager has committed suicide; we united have failed to perceive his/her state of mind MSSR and VCD attributes.
In this article, I would like to further progress the debate on different issues affecting a teenager's delicate state of mind.
The first issue is related to the role of electronic media, televisions, magazines and various other vulgar materials which even distract most of the adults as well.
How far are we responsible for making world vulgar? In the name of truth, today the electronic media has forgotten her social role.
Every one knows that under the garment every one is naked but how you project this statement is the witty vision of media.
Similarly, one eyed man is blind from an eye is the truth but directly addressing him as a blind XYZ would tantamount to abusing him but courteous address word would not anger him as much as bluntly being called a blind man.
Today, the world media is actually misusing the right of information and liberty to pollute the society, thus, poisoning the minds of teens through their bedroom serials.
So far, the world electronic media has, by and large, failed to live up to the expectations of the society.
The true example could be ascertained from the fact that the media continued to telecast news of bare breast of super model whose bra had slipped down during cat walk on ramp.
You will agree that our electronic media has penetrated every common man's bedroom through shows and programs.
In the name of liberty, most of the televised shows are directly airing offensive and obscene immoral shows, thus, intoxicating teenagers mind at a very tender age.
The fact, parents cannot compel their children itself is indicator of downfall of liberty of moral responsibilities of social pundits.
The Muslim world's hue and cry to stop Western telecast are purely due to fear of poisoning the orthodox society.
I also, by and large, agree with Muslim's view point of preventing vulgarity at home through media.
Why at all, there are over 36,000 child porno sites on the internet? Why any government should be asking to prosecute such criminals? How deeply a teenagers mind is affected by media is difficult to fathom but how effectively it has disturb and developed Mental Disorder in their tender minds is easy to see.
As the electronic media is the most effective mean of affecting teenagers' mind, it should be used to save their lives and not poison.
In view of the above, I suggest; oTeenagers be educated to differentiate between vulgarity, obscenity and simplicity; oAdvise to only view programs suiting their age; oBe explained as to why a program is aired to eradicate which social evil; oEducate teenagers to learn on need to know basis as per their age.
I often remember that when I was nearly fourteen years of age, an elder in our village has left for heavenly abode.
When I tried to accompany his corpse with villagers to the crematorium, my father Shri Jagan Nath BA said quote "it is a pious duty of everyone to honor and accompany anybody's departed soul's corpse to crematorium but today you have not yet grown enough to accompany, therefore, return to the house.
When you grow, you can go with others" unquote.
How deliberately and effectively my father had cultured me; both for my social and material obligations is worth noting.
oEducate your teenagers to be selective in viewing various programs; oAlways remind your teenagers that all shows are like dreams and far away from the realities of life, therefore, never try to impersonate yourself with the television or other comic characters.
oNever be harsh with teenagers in checking the viewing; rather educate as to why you want to check; oInternet Media through which many teenagers have been victimized.
In some case, these teenagers have ended their lives before even actually understanding the true meaning of marriage and their social responsibilities.
Various groups, promoted to become friends; and thereafter, exploit teenagers are such bad and malevolence epidemics spread in the society.
With out understanding the real encumbrances of marriage institution of society, numerous teenagers are committing suicide after plunging into it.
To just overcome the desires of lust spread through media, they wed without their elders blessing, thus later leading them to commit suicide.
The second issue revolves around the glamour and glitter of celebrity status and its hyped affect on today's teenagers.
As the teenagers begin to live in their own dream world on entering teens, therefore, any impediment is viewed seriously.
The vulgar porno activists sometimes become the role model of thousands of teenagers.
While the teenagers have failed to comprehend as to how such people have become celebrity through irresponsible media glamour and catch-ups on one side, the parents neglect in blocking such vulgar sites on the other.
The failure of various countries government's in setting norms for a social society, have resulted in such people's elevation as vulgarity symbols.
Mushrooming of hundreds of porno sites from United State of America, Europe and some Middle East countries need to be strongly curbed.
Infact, large number of such sites are uploaded from US.
How should we grow our children is not the matter; but what should we make our children socially responsible matters most in today's environment.
Now days, the entire stress of our education system is to nurture our future teenagers on materialistic world with some social responsibilities.
In the present day's modern system of education, all the countries barring a few Muslim are more or less directed to educate as to how to accumulate worldly wealth and not to develop the social character.
The Indian old education system of Sages and Saints was invented to; one first develop strong individual character, two identify students suitability for different walks of life; and three then impart specialize higher education to student in a particular field of life but the present system is filled with flaws thus making teenagers vulnerable to all type of threats.
My esteem readers would be surprised to know that every year thousands of girl teenagers are being pushed into flesh trade and prostitution due to various reasons in all over the world.
Thirdly, I would say that teenager who is bubbling with the curiosity to explore the world with whatsoever little knowledge they possess are easiest target to penetrate.
Why teenagers fall easy pray is due to: oOne; High ability to take risk in life.
The teenagers being immature are unable to analyze problems deeply, thus taking risk without fully knowing its implications.
oTwo; inquisitiveness to explore and learn early; all neglected teenagers have been generally found to be indulging in trying to know about the life and world early.
A large number of teenagers have succumbed to various criminals and unlawful people.
oThree; curiosity to compete with others as "I am the first"; It is revealed from the study of few cases of girls suicide; that they had too end their lives because in the urge to know first, they had fallen pray to the wrong doers.
After knowing the weaknesses of teenagers, we can introduce steps to prevent teenager's suicide.
Once again role of parents and teachers is significant in guiding and steering such teenagers to a respectable social life.
I would further recommend that we have to make our electronic and print media more accountable and responsible towards the society.
Such media shows exposing vulgarity and nudity must stop even if it is achieved at the cost of curbing some liberties.
The truth of liberty that every human being is born naked, therefore, all human should live as such, can only be allowed in jungle and forests but not in a civilized society.
I would further dwell upon the issues to prevent teenager's suicide.
The irritants which teenagers hate would also be touched up on.
I convey my appreciation and sincere thanks to all Ezine esteem readers once again.