The worst part of breaking up with your spouse and getting a divorce is on telling your kids about the real situation.
Some kids tend to blame themselves for their parent's broken relationship, and others cannot even accept the fact that their family is wrecked because of their parent's divorce.
But these things can actually be avoided if you just know the proper ways of telling your kids about the sad reality.
Work with your Spouse You and your spouse should both help each other in facing this sad situation in your life and you must both agree on how you are going to inform your kids about your divorce.
As much as possible, avoid having arguments in front of your kids, because this will just worsen the situation.
Whatever the reasons of your breakup are, you must still consider each other as friends because your kids will definitely feel bad if you are not in good terms with each other after the divorce.
Look for the Right Time You must inform your kids about your decision to divorce at the right time, so to avoid any conflicts between you and your kids.
Remember that this issue is very sensitive, so you should not just say it to your kids at anytime you want to.
Instead, look for the right timing and make sure that you no longer feel any hatred towards each other whenever you face your kids and explain to them the real status of your relationship.
Avoid Blaming Anyone As mentioned from the start, some kids would tend to blame themselves whenever their parents are divorcing.
Or in some other cases, the kids would either blame their father or their mother for ruining the family.
To avoid this, do not talk bad things against your partner when you are in front of your kids, nor make them feel bad that you are divorcing.
Make them feel that you are still one family, and nothing has changed, except that you or your spouse will no longer live in one house.
Give Them Reassurance It's devastating for the kids to know that the people they love the most are breaking up, so make sure that you assure them that everything will be fine despite of the breakup.
Give them reassurance that you and your spouse will still remain to be good friends despite of what happened and that you are still going to be there for them, especially in those times where they needed you the most.
Assure them that the family bond will still be there, and make them feel that they are still special to you.
Honesty is very important when it comes to informing your kids about the divorce, so you have to be as honest as possible when talking to them.
Another important thing to remember is to make sure that it's the two of you who are going to talk to your kids about the divorce, and do not just do it all by yourself.
Most importantly, always adhere to the promises you made to your kids.
So if you promise to be there for them when they need you, then you have to.