It's often been said that our eyes are the windows to our souls.
If that's true, and you're in a dating relationship, here are three ways that you can interpret her true thoughts and feelings, and how you can discover if she's flirting with you.
1.
Look closely at her eyes.
Are her pupils dilated? Dilated pupils are a sure indication that she feels positive about you, and that she's interested.
In case you don't know what a dilated pupil looks like, the best way to describe it is that the black center of the eye is very large, and you can barely see the surrounding color of the iris.
On the contrary, if she's feeling negative toward you, or she's on guard about something you've said, her pupils will contract (get smaller).
When the pupils dilate and contract, it's an action that cannot be consciously controlled.
A person cannot willfully change the size of their pupils.
2.
Look at her eyes and consider the lighting conditions of where you are when you're approaching her.
While you might be able to look at her and notice that her pupils are dilated, you must also consider that when light levels change, so do the pupils.
In a brightly-lit room or while walking outside in bright sunshine, the pupils will naturally contract.
A low light environment will also affect the eyes, and can cause the pupils to dilate.
Consider the moment and also the lighting before assigning a positive or negative gesture as being part of her temperament or emotional state.
3.
Look at her eyes and notice if she's looking up.
This body-eye gesture is more prevalent in women.
It involves lowering the head towards the neck, and then the eyes look upwards at you.
It's a more childlike expression, and conveys an innocent look, which can be interpreted as playful, flirting, and vulnerable.
When she looks at you that way, she's telling you that she wants you to take care of her and she's taunting you.
She wants you to perceive her gestures as if you can't resist her.
When you pay attention to a woman's eyes and make purposeful eye contact with her, it lets her know that you like her.
It's been proven in many psychological tests that if you don't make eye contact with someone, you're avoiding that person and blocking subsequent advances.
The more you look into her eyes, the more she will perceive that you're being romantic, that you enjoy being with her, and that she has your undivided attention.
One caution, however, is that if you make it your "job" to continually make eye contact with her, she might just feel pressured and insecure, wondering why you're "staring" at her.
Start gradually, and then increase the amount of direct eye contact you have with her.
It will make a positive and lasting impression.